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Sitting Alone

Sitting Alone

Sitting alone sucks. I remember when I was going through a tough period in life I pushed people away and tried to sit alone. The problem is we are communal—God created us as beings who need community to thrive. We need God and we need people. No wonder God tells us the greatest commands: Love God and love others.

Life cannot be lived alone. We need others for fellowship, for guidance, for encouragement, and for support. We need others to do life with and there is no way to deny this truth. When you are at home, at work, at church, at school—wherever you are in life, you need others and God brings people into your life for His great purposes.

Moses was trying to do everything alone. He was sitting around all day judging the people. It was too much. Not only was he going to wear himself out, but he was going to wear the other people out as well. Today let us look at the different areas of our own lives. Are we taking on too much and wearing out ourselves and those around us? Are we sitting alone trying to take on the whole world by ourselves? Do we allow others to help? Do we struggle to keep ourselves afloat? If you are sitting alone struggling, reach out. If you see others struggling as well, reach out. No one should be sitting alone.

When Moses’ father-in-law saw all that he was doing for the people, he said, “What is this that you are doing for the people? Why do you sit alone, and all the people stand around you from morning till evening? …You and the people with you will certainly wear yourselves out, for the thing is too heavy for you. You are not able to do it alone.’”

Exodus 18:14, 18 [ESV]

All the Help You Can Get

I have a problem accepting help from others. I am a very independent person and throughout my life I have grown very accustomed to doing things on my own. It is my first hand nature to simply roll up my sleeves and get to work on whatever needs done. Whether the washing machine breaks or the lawn needs mowed and I’m wearing an eye patch and can barely see to mow it, I get things accomplished. I push through the pain. I stretch myself. I even get overwhelmed trying to get it all done, but I get it finished.

Asking for help is something I do not like to do but I am getting better. There was a time when it was a pride issue. Then it turned into an issue of not wanting to inconvenience anyone. But today’s passage makes it clear that when something needs addressed, it is important to seek advice from others, to get help from others. Wise guidance. We all need wise guidance. The verse refers to getting this advice before we make war; however, help is needed in many facets of life.

We are not meant to do life alone. We are supposed to have a community of people to which we belong, and the community is to help encourage, strengthen, comfort, equip, support, and interact with each other. When someone needs help, the group is there. When someone falls, the group helps to pick them up. Ecclesiastes made it clear that two is better than one so we need to never push people away. We need to remember that counsel is important, and that we should appreciate and take all the help offered. Refusing is denying the blessing. Refusing is piling the burden on your shoulders. Refusing to do life with others is living in a way God never intended.

“Form your purpose by asking for counsel,
then carry it out using all the help you can get.”

-Proverbs 20:18 [MSG]

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