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Scapegoat

Most people have heard the term “scapegoat.” Typically, we hear this word when referencing someone who took the fall for the team or someone who took the blame for something they weren’t even guilty of committing.  This term is rooted in Leviticus 16, when we read of the need for Aaron to present a live goat that would take on the sins of the people, and then go into the wilderness to symbolize the complete removal of the sins of the people.

There is argument over the term Azazel. Some people see this as being Satan. Others understand this term to mean “complete removal” or “entire removal.” No matter the possibilities, this action of laying of hands on the goat’s head for confession was seen as a transfer of the sins from the people to the goat. Driving the goat away from the people, into the wilderness, symbolized the removal of the sins of the people.

You may use this term “scapegoat” today to describe someone who carries the blame alone, despite their lack of guilt. This live goat that Aaron lay hands upon is a foreshadowing of Who would come to be the ultimate Scapegoat. Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, was free of sin. He was perfect. As He hung on the cross, it was as if Aaron lay hands on Him. The sins of all people were transferred to Jesus Christ. He bore it all. He died on the cross, killed like a criminal, and then He was sent away to remain in a tomb. But the story doesn’t end there. On the third day, He rose. Unlike the need for Aaron to continue to find scapegoats to purify the people, Jesus Christ was able to provide the complete removal of sins forever. There is no need for another scapegoat. Today, if you are convicted of sin in your life, turn to the one true Scapegoat, Jesus Christ, and repent of your sins. You will be forgiven.

“The other goat, the scapegoat chosen by lot to be sent away, will be kept alive, standing before the LORD. When it is sent away to Azazel in the wilderness, the people will be purified and made right with the LORD…. When Aaron has finished purifying the Most Holy Place and the Tabernacle and the altar, he must present the live goat. He will lay both of his hands on the goat’s head and confess over it all the wickedness, rebellion, and sins of the people of Israel. In this way, he will transfer the people’s sins to the head of the goat. Then a man specially chosen for the task will drive the goat into the wilderness. As the goat goes into the wilderness, it will carry all the people’s sins upon itself into a desolate land.” – Leviticus 16:10, 20-22 [NLT]

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Mouse Issues

I have been having issues with my computer’s wireless mouse. Sometimes it seems like it’s working and then I suddenly am moving around the mouse and nothing is happening. It has been a big issue because it keeps happening and delays my work. The frustration level started to get high and the mouse faced the results. I thought banging the mouse would fix the problem. My idea was dirt might have been on the sensor.

For the past week, I have been cracking this mouse thinking it was helping the situation. I blamed the mouse for malfunctioning. Oh how wrong I was! It wasn’t the mouse at all. It was the USB plug for the mouse. I put the blame immediately in one area. In believing the problem was one thing, I neglected to even look at anything else as the culprit.

Life is this way. When we have situations that are problematic, we have the opportunity to seek out the root cause. The Spirit reveals to us root problems; however, a big problem for us is acknowledging the Spirit’s conviction, hearing the revelation of the Holy Spirit. Many times we blame something else because it does not take us out of our comfort zone—it keeps us from being pruned and stretched the way that’s best. We stay stuck because we love to live in denial. Today, be open to the Spirit’s conviction. Do not try to be so fixated on other things that you fail to listen to God’s voice.

“But I tell you the truth, it is for your benefit that I am going away. Unless I go away, the Advocate will not come to you; but if I go, I will send Him to you. And when He comes, He will convict the world in regard to sin and righteousness and judgment.” – John 16:7-8 [NIV]

Pole Smashing

On the way home from my daughter’s track meet, we got to see a town square pole get uprooted and smashed by a big freight truck. It was something I’ve never seen before, but it was also a teachable moment that I took advantage of when it was available. The reason the truck driver could not navigate the turn is because someone else disobeyed the traffic signs and pulled over a car length ahead of the line to stop. The truck driver had no room. Even when the lady in the car reversed as far as the car behind her permitted, it was not enough for the truck driver. Then it was a chain reaction. Truck 1. Pole 0.

My daughter was upset. She was concerned that someone would have to pay for the pole, and that someone would have to put the new pole in place. She didn’t understand why the lady did what she did, and she thought that she should be punished for putting the truck in an impossible situation to navigate. At the same time, she wondered if the truck driver would be punished because he did drive up on the curb and tear down the pole. This is where my teachable moment came into play.

We can easily agree that the lady should have stopped where the law says she should stop. We can easily agree that no one should be driving on curbs, though as a truck driver daughter, I understand why it had to go down that way. If the lady would not have pulled up so far, then the truck driver likely would not have driven on the curb. Nonetheless, this is a situation where we can argue that both parties did something wrong. Just because the one party caused the other person to do something wrong, doesn’t make the other person’s wrong any better.

Consider now, the topic of sin. Sometimes we do something that is bad, and then we place that blame on someone else “making” us do it. No one makes you do it, but somehow it seems like they do when we do something wrong. Why is that? We don’t like to be wrong. We don’t like to be found guilty. We don’t want to look like the bad guy. The other person made us do it. When we say this, it makes us feel better. It takes away our responsibility. It makes us feel like our dirty hands are not-so-dirty. But it is a façade. The truth is, wrong is wrong and right is right. If you lose your temper and act in anger because someone sinned against you, then your hands are dirty. You are guilty. There is no, “she made me do it,” that will change your guilt.

What can we do knowing that we cannot push off blame? Accept responsibility for your actions. Confess. Repent. When you do this, you accept the forgiveness our merciful God offers. This will result in something much better than blaming another could ever achieve. Forgiveness. Spiritual Growth. Integrity.

“People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy.” – Proverbs 28:13 [NLT]

“The man said, ‘The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.’  Then the Lord God said to the woman, ‘What is this that you have done?’ The woman said, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate.’” – Genesis 3:12-13 [ESV]

Jealous Blame Anger

In Genesis 30, “Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, she envied her sister” (v. 1 ESV). She went to Jacob and basically said if you don’t give me any children Jacob, I will die. Jacob got angry at Rachel. He said, “Am I in the place of God, who has withheld from you the fruit of the womb?” More or less he was saying, “Hey Rachel, I’m not to blame. It’s not my fault.” Notice how Rachel was jealous and she went and placed the blame on Jacob. Then Jacob, who was incorrectly on the receiving end of the blame, became angry as a result of the misplaced blame.

Sin spreads. When a seed of sin is planted in a relationship, it can easily grow and spread. It can start as a small sin and turn into something very destructive. Too often we play the blame game and see things fall apart right before our eyes. Blame can ignite into anger and lead to a large fire that spreads out of control.

Be careful when you are placing the blame on someone. Often blame is misplaced. Instead fix your eyes on Jesus. Take whatever is on your heart to Him. Seek His Word. Taking everything to God instead of playing the blame game will lead you to a better reaction. Instead of placing blame, you will be placing everything before the feet of the One Who holds the world in His hands. It’s okay to be honest and pour out your heart. May God open your eyes to the Truth and touch your heart, leading to transformation. Transformation is so much better than destruction. Amen!

“When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, ‘Give me children, or I’ll die!’ Jacob became angry with her and said, ‘Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?’” – Genesis 30:1-2 [NIV]

The Blame Game

It is very clear that many people today have a problem with accepting blame for their actions. When they make a mistake, they try to cover it up. When they get caught in a lie, they lie some more. When someone is found out, the person tries to pin the blame on someone else. There is a lot of pointing fingers and a lack of integrity in this world.

This was an issue with my kids when they were younger and I’m sure that my sister and I did the same thing when we were young. Rather than accept the consequences, the blame is passed to someone else. I am not sure if it is a fear of punishment or something altogether different, but it happens. It actually has been happening since the very beginning. In Genesis 3, during the Fall, when God speaks with Adam regarding the apple, he points to Eve. When Eve responds to God, she points to the serpent.

If you don’t accept the blame when you are at fault, you become disillusioned. You begin to point to everyone else as the problem when you face consequences for your actions. You never can learn and grow from your mistakes and missteps when you do this, but instead, you will grow bitterness and anger because you think the world is out to get you. To be one of integrity, own up to your mistakes and learn from them. You will make mistakes. You will mess up. Accept this along with the consequences. God has so much more for you. Yes you will be corrected. Yes you will be rebuked. Yes you may pay a price for what you have done. But owning up to something and taking responsibility is important. Don’t play the blame game.

“The man said, ‘The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.’  Then the Lord God said to the woman, ‘What is this that you have done?’ The woman said, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate.’” – Genesis 3:12-13 [ESV]

Spoiled Rotten

The other day I was asked to keep the fruit snacks out of the bag as I processed an order. I was sure to comply with the request but it was not good enough. The fruit snacks I kept back were for the one child; however, the other child also had a box of fruit snacks. Something very trivial to me became a very loud scene.

The children had to have their own boxes of fruit snacks. A big tantrum proceeded—where there was no respect, no discipline, nothing but blame passed to me for not keeping both boxes of fruit snacks out. Each box of fruit snacks contains ten pouches. One would assume children would share. I never heard of children both needing to have their own. But what was worse, was that the mother blamed me for an error when the error wasn’t bagged fruit snacks. The children caused such a scene with people shaking their heads at the selfishness, the disrespect, etc.

I don’t want to criticize bad parenting. I mess up often. But today I want to remind you all of something very important. We have an amazing Father—a PERFECT FATHER. He doesn’t give us everything. Some things we aren’t meant to have because it would spoil us. So why do we insist on giving our children everything? There is a reason for discipline. There is a reason for tough love. There is a reason for restrictions and guidelines. When something is spoiled, we say it’s “rotten.” Let us not raise up rotten children. Let us raise up God fearing, respectful, loving children.

“Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.” – Proverbs 13:24 [NIV]

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Take the Blame

“Asa was angry with the seer because of this; he was so enraged that he put him in prison. At the same time Asa brutally oppressed some of the people.” – 2 Chronicles 16:10 [NIV]

King Asa did “what was good and right in the eyes of the LORD his God” (2 Chronicles 14:2 NIV). Of all the kings of Judah, he certainly was at the top of the list when it came to obedience. Nonetheless, he ended up relying on the king of Aram instead of God. Because of what he did, Hanani was sent to him to let him know the judgment of the Lord. Hanani revealed that this disobedience would result in war.  Asa was angry and took it out on Hanani, sending him to prison. He also responded by oppressing the people.

Hanani and the people did not deserve this reaction from Asa for it was Asa’s actions that warranted this pending war. There is great difficulty in accepting blame for our actions. A big problem even today is accepting responsibility for actions.  Asa had years of peace—no war until the thirty-fifth year of his reign because he did what was right. He knew what he was supposed to do and he did it for years. He alone was to blame for his actions just as we alone are to blame for our own actions. Remember this today when it’s time to take the blame.