Dealing with Difficult People – 7/23/17
Romans 12:18– Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.
Never Retaliate / Pray for Them
2 Samuel 16– Shimei Curses David, David doesn’t retaliate
2 Samuel 19 (Request for Justice) & 1 Kings 2 (Justice Delivered)
Pray for Yourself
Pray for a heart for all people
Colossians 3:12-34– Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Bless and Encourage Them
Hebrews 10:24– Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.
Ephesians 4:29– Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Speak Truth in Love
Ephesians 4:15– Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.
Don’t Run Away Unless Necessary
Moses grew in Humility and Compassion as he led the Israelites
The Israelites grumbled because they had no water (Numbers 11:4-6)
The Israelites wished they died in Egypt (Numbers 20:2-3)
The Israelites wanted to choose another leader (Numbers 14:2-4)
Moses prayed for healing for Miriam from leprosy (Numbers 12:13)
Moses prayed for the Israelites (Numbers 14:19)
Moses fasted 40 days and nights because of golden calf worship (Deuteronomy 9:13-18)
My daughter went out to eat for her first sit down dinner with a group, where she was then required to take care of her own bill and tip accordingly. She was well prepared for the trip and was excited to have some time to spend with her friends dining out. When it was time to pay the bill, my daughter figured out the tip like I taught her using a simple math trick. She rounded up as well, something else I taught her. Hey, I like my kids to be equipped.
My daughter was ready to pay, but then a few people questioned the tip she was leaving. You aren’t leaving that amount are you?!? That’s too much. A few gasped at the thought. But she was determined to bless the person with a good tip like she saw in action so many times. Nonetheless, there were more gasps and some people telling her it was too much to give. Just an FYI, it was only $5 for a $15 meal; it wasn’t something outrageous. Even so, she didn’t give the tip she planned. She listened to her friends who told her it was too much, and followed their instructions to get change and leave precisely the exact percentage down to the penny as best she could get.
Often during tip time, people do what reminds me of doing a duty, giving what had to be given by society’s terms. Like paying union dues or a gas bill. My daughter felt bad that she caved in. I told her that for the next meal, she can say she wishes to bless the person and just give what is placed on her heart. This was the first time she was in this situation, and with her innocent eyes, she hasn’t witnessed people trying to tip the minimum. All she sees is an outpouring of generosity. Today, stand bold. Don’t allow the people around you to dictate your actions. God is generous, more generous than anyone. You will never out give God. Truth. If the Spirit leads you to bless someone, whether it be a nice tip, some cash, a gift card, some manual labor, etc., listen. We are blessed to be a blessing. And it’s such a blessing to be a blessing. This world is a dark place. We are called to be the light. Don’t hide it. Shine it. Be the difference. Show the love.
“Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” – 2 Corinthians 9:7 [NIV]
“And I have been a constant example of how you can help those in need by working hard. You should remember the words of the Lord Jesus: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’” – Acts 20:35 [NLT]
I was blown away last month by an awesome display of Christian service. I serve the Lord and I see so many others serving the Lord. We are told to go above and beyond but we do not see it so often. I know many times I could do and give and say more. I was blessed to see it last month and I must say I was amazed to see how God used a few people.
I needed to have my car inspected. Only having one car and doing everything alone can pose a problem, especially with getting to work. Plus I am not mechanically inclined so I have no idea what all needs to be done for inspection. There was also possible issues that needed resolved for the full inspection to pass. A dear brother and sister in Christ opted to assist with the inspection. I figured I would take the car to him and he would get things ready for inspection and I would take it to the inspection shop. I assumed I would pay him for parts and he would bless me with reduced or free labor. Instead, his wife and I exchanged vehicles. He repaired all that needed repaired. He took it to the inspection shop. They paid for the parts, for the inspection, and even filled up the gas tank before returning my car. A person who could not even afford the regular price for a simple inspection was given special treatment with additional servicing and extra gasoline. What a blessing! I could do nothing much to return to the favor.
This blessing reminded me of Jesus’ saying about doing for others what they couldn’t repay. I prayed for the couple and I continue to pray for them. That is all I can do. I’ve been in their shoes before and I must say it is rewarding. You cannot know how rewarding until you try it yourself. Be warned—the devil will try to deter your open hands. But keep pressing through and you will see how awesome it is to pour out in abundance what God has given to you. Such a great feeling! My car got inspected, but so much more happened. So much more!
“But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, and you will be blessed. Although they cannot repay you, you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.” – Luke 14:13-14 [NIV]