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Dealing with Difficult People Outline

Dealing with Difficult People – 7/23/17

Romans 12:18– Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.

 

Never Retaliate / Pray for Them

2 Samuel 16– Shimei Curses David, David doesn’t retaliate

2 Samuel 19 (Request for Justice) & 1 Kings 2 (Justice Delivered)

Matthew 5:38-48

 

Pray for Yourself

Pray for a heart for all people

Colossians 3:12-34– Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

 

Bless and Encourage Them

Hebrews 10:24– Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.

Ephesians 4:29– Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

 

Speak Truth in Love

Ephesians 4:15– Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.

 

Don’t Run Away Unless Necessary

Moses grew in Humility and Compassion as he led the Israelites

 

The Israelites grumbled because they had no water (Numbers 11:4-6)

The Israelites wished they died in Egypt (Numbers 20:2-3)

The Israelites wanted to choose another leader (Numbers 14:2-4)

 

Moses prayed for healing for Miriam from leprosy (Numbers 12:13)

Moses prayed for the Israelites (Numbers 14:19)

Moses fasted 40 days and nights because of golden calf worship (Deuteronomy 9:13-18)

 

 

 

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Planting for a Good Harvest Outline

Planting for a Good Harvest – New Years Day 2017

God has been preparing things at DRCC for this year – A Year of Planting

First comes the Rototiller – breaks up the ground to prepare for the planting

Purging / Preparing / Setting up

Luke 6:38

MSG –“Give away your life; you’ll find life given back, but not merely given back—given back with bonus and blessing. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity.”

NLT –“Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full–pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.”

 

[Proverbs 11:25]…One who waters will be watered

LOVE & SERVE GOD – RELATIONSHIP – INVESTING IN OTHERS

 

Where are you positioned to plant?

Plant where God positions you.(Remember Christmas Eve message – give all where you are placed).

Go where the Spirit leads you to plant – [Acts 16:6-7 / 1 Peter 1:2]

The Spirit didn’t allow Paul to go to Bithynia.

Paul was to go to Macedonia Greece. Others would plant at Bithynia.

Make the Most of every Opportunity. [Ephesians 5:15-16] BE INTENTIONAL

What are you planting?

THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK/ACT – BE INTENTIONAL (Philippians 4:8)

T – Is it true? [Ephesians 4:15] “Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.”

H – Is it helpful? [James 3:8-10]“But no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it curses those who have been made in the image of God. And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right!” [Ephesians 4:29] “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” SPEAK LIFE

I – Is it inspiring? [Hebrews 10:24]“Let us think of ways to motivate one anotherto acts of love & good works.”BE AN ENCOURAGEMENT TO OTHERS

N – Is it necessary? [Proverbs 10:9] “Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.”[James 1:19] “… slow to speak” [Proverbs 18:21]The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.

K – Is it kind? [2 Timothy 2:24-25]“A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. Gently instructthose who oppose the truth…” [James 3:17-18]“But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness.”[Proverbs 6:19]“There are six things the LORD hates–no, seven things he detests: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, a heart that plots evil, feet that race to do wrong, a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family.” GOD DESIRES UNITY FOR HIS PEOPLE

 

OPEN YOUR HANDS – POUR OUT FOR JESUS – you will be blessed

[John 12:1-12]

“Let us not become weary in doing good for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” [Galatians 6:9] – GET READY TO PLANT IN 2017.

Handle With Care: Add Fabric Softener

Week 3 – Add Fabric Softener

[Hebrews 10:24-25]

CARING LIKE BARNABAS

 

Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near. [NLT]

 

GENEROUSActs 4:36-37 – Barnabas sold land to provide for fellow Christians

ACCEPTINGActs 9:26-28 – Barnabas took a chance with Paul when the other’s weren’t accepting him.

ENCOURAGINGActs 11:23-24 – Barnabas was glad to see what God did through others and encouraged them to all remain true to God.

GRACIOUSActs 15:36-41 – Barnabas extended grace to John Mark, not giving up on John Mark.

 

Embrace – Encourage – Equip – Empower

 

Put yourself aside and let others get ahead (Philippians 2:3-4)

Speak what is helpful for building others up (Ephesians 4:29)

 

2 Timothy 4:11 – Paul later requested John Mark because he was profitable to the ministry.

 

Breakout Session Questions:

1) Read Acts 15:36-41 and Philippians 2:3-4. How does this passage in Philippians relate to the narrative in Acts 15?

2) Read Ephesians 4:29. What does Paul describe in this passage? How do we live this out?

3) Read Romans 15:1-6 Who are we to please? What does this passage describe as the relationship between the strong and weak? How can we live this out?

4) Read 1 Timothy 2:1-3. What does this passage say is most important, and why is this most important?

 

Handle with Care is a 6-week series focused on studying God’s Word and responding with care. The six weeks of messages may sound like instructions for laundry care — but you will soon find Handle with Care beckons you to examine within, to gauge how you truly love God and love others, and to grow inward and outward. Caring starts with the heart and pours out into the community.

 

Ephesians Study: Anger Management

[Ephesians 4:17-32]

25) Don’t lie

26) Don’t act in anger – James 1:20 – Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. [NLT] Anger motivated by pride. Anger that lingers.

27) Give no opportunity to devil

28) If you are a thief, quit stealing. Instead, use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need. [NLT]

29) Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift. [MSG]

30) Don’t grieve God. Don’t break his heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of your life, making you fit for Himself. Don’t take such a gift for granted. [MSG]

31)

  • Bitterness, harshness, embittered resentful spirit
  • Wrath, passion, rage, bad temper
  • Anger, resentment, animosity
  • Quarreling, brawling, clamor, contention, shout
  • Slander, evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language
  • Malice, spite, ill will, evil behavior, wickedness, vicious disposition

Proverbs 29:11 – A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back. [NASB]

Proverbs 29:22 – An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many sins. [NIV]

Proverbs 30:33 – For the churning of milk produces butter, And pressing the nose brings forth blood; So the churning of anger produces strife. [NASB]

1 Timothy 2:8 – Therefore, I want the men in every place to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or argument. [HCSB]

Holy Spirit – common to each believer – Spirit of God ties each of us together

Acting in a negative matter breaks the binding of the Body. It is the opposite of unity. Anger can divide a church (2 Corinthians 12:20)

Never let anything bring division to His Body. Speak life. Look out for the best interests of others…

Bible Study Questions:

Ephesians 4 focuses on the unity of the body of Christ, the Church, and living as children of Light. What are some of the items Paul tells us to refrain from to promote unity and righteous living?

Ephesians 4:27 says not to give the devil an “opportunity” or “foothold” or “place.” What does this mean? Why is this so important?

The passage says, “Be angry” but in some verses we read that a fool loses his temper, commits many sins, and stirs up conflict. Where do we draw the line? How can anger be okay?

What Fruit of the Spirt do you think is important to live out these words Paul has written in this passage? (read Galatians 5:22-26)

Why does Paul spend so much time talking about unity?

What have you seen be most divisive in the Body?

What can you do to promote unity?

This is one part of a 12-week Sermon Series and Bible Study focused on Ephesians. The 12 weeks include:

1- Sons and Daughters

2- Immeasurable Greatness

3- God’s Workmanship

4- Our Cornerstone

5- Least of the Saints

6- Love of Christ

7- Abundantly More

8- Unity of the Body

9- Anger Management

10- Exposed by the Light

11- Submission

12- Prepared for Battle

 

 

 

Grace and Truth

And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen His glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth… For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. – John 1:14, 17 [ESV]

God’s Word is Truth (John 17:17)

Jesus is the Way, the Truth, the life (John 14:6) – The Way to the Father, Truth itself, Life eternal

What about Grace?

Grace is Enough / Amazing Grace / Scandal of Grace / Sufficiency of Grace / Outrageous Grace

Grace Abounds / Only Grace / Saving Grace / Irresistible Grace / Unmeasured Grace

Beauty of Grace/ Fields of Grace / Grace Changes Everything / Grace Flood

 

Grace is the unmerited favor of God. Grace is getting what you don’t deserve.

  • Gift – Gift from God (Romans 3:24)
  • Received – Received by Faith (Ephesians 2:8-9, Romans 4:16)
  • Available – Available to Everyone (Romans 4:16, Romans 10:13)
  • Christ – Grace comes through Christ (John 1:17, Romans 5:15, Galatians 2:21)
  • Eternity – It’s Extended Throughout Eternity (Romans 6:23)

(Acrostic Credit – Rick Warren)

Grace is…

  • Restoring – wipes out guilt & helps you start over (Isaiah 43:25)
  • Sustaining – gives you power to endure (Philippians 2:13)
  • Healing – does miracles in your life (Psalm 147:3)
  • Liberating – helps you break free from perfectionism / upholding the Law (Matthew 11:28-30)
  • Assuring – helps you defeat your fear & doubt (Romans 8:37)

Vertical Grace (God to us) vs. Horizontal Grace (us to others)

Love that reaches up is adoration. Love that reaches out is compassion. But love that stoops is grace.

– Charles Swindoll

Grace brings conviction faster than rebuke!

Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. – Ephesians 4:29 [NLT]

Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all! – Romans 12:16 [NLT]

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. – 1 Thessalonians 5:11 [ESV]

See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all people. – 1 Thessalonians 5:15 [NASB]

Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. – Ephesians 4:2 [NLT]

Social ImMEDIAte

I love social media. Over the years, FearNot Ministries has continued to have a presence on many social media sites to share the Gospel and encourage people to dig deeper into God’s Word and engage in a closer, more intimate relationship with Christ Jesus. Social media can do great good; however, like anything that can be used for good, social media can present some problems. What grieves me most is seeing how people take to Facebook, Instagram or Twitter with personal issues that involve others or could demean themselves.

God’s Word clearly tells us to speak life to others (Ephesians 4:29). Our words have the power to kill or the power to build up; our words have the power to destroy or to encourage (Proverbs 18:21). We have the option to choose what we say—and our very goal for the words we speak. The Bible says we should speak with people, expecting to bring out the best in others in conversation (Colossians 4:6). What an aim! God’s Word also tells us how to approach fellow believers we have issues with so that we can do so in a loving and graceful manner that will still hold the person accountable. The Bible says to first go to the person alone. If the person will not listen, take another person with you (Matthew 18:15-17). The Bible says when a fellow believer has a different opinion as you, you are to treat them gently (Romans 14:1). Posting something on Facebook for a large swarm of people to see is destructive. Not only does it damage those it involves, but it shows non-believers something far from Christ, and can become a stumbling block to those seeking to know more about Jesus.

As you interact online, remember to share the love of Christ. Remember that anything you post could be seen by more than just you. Remember that your words have the power to destroy. Speak life. Speak using good discernment (knowing what is right and what is wrong). Speak with love. May your words be few and your love and grace runneth over.

Three R Challenge

This was a message I shared with a challenge for Lent. It can be a challenge for anyone at anytime of the year. At the end of the day, it is my prayer that we all will be relentless in our pursuit of Jesus as He is relentlessly pursuing us each day.

The Three R Challenge

1) REMAIN in God (John 15:8-12)

“My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit, and so prove to be My disciples. Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; ABIDE IN MY LOVE. If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love; just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love. These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full. This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.” [NASB]

 Challenge 1: Show Love through Acts of Generosity

With Will and Purpose – Sometimes this requires us to change /adapt. About putting God / people first.

With Actions – Act, not just observe. “Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it?” (James 2:15-16 NIV).

With Possessions“John replied, ‘If you have two shirts, give one to the poor. If you have food, share it with those who are hungry’” (Luke 3:11 NLT).

With Words“Use your heads as you live and work among outsiders. Don’t miss a trick. Make the most of every opportunity. Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out” (Colossians 4:6 MSG). “Pleasant words are a honeycomb: sweet to the taste and health to the body” (Proverbs 16:24 HCSB). “Say only what helps, each word a gift” (Ephesians 4:29b MSG).

With Love“We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters. If someone has enough money to live well and sees a brother or sister in need but shows no compassion–how can God’s love be in that person? Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions” (1 John 3:15-18 NLT).

With Faith – Philip taking the time to run to and speak with the Ethiopian (Acts 8:26-40). The Woman at the Well going into town to tell people about this man Jesus (John 4). Do you share your hope?

With Forgiveness“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others” (Colossians 3:13 NLT).

(see 40acts – Do Lent Generously)

2) RENEW yourself in Him (Romans 12:1-2) – Change the way you think

“So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, FIX YOUR ATTENTION ON GOD. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.” [MSG]

Challenge 2: Dig deep into His Word – Daily Bible reading, Daily Devotion Reading, attend Sunday School &  Small Groups.

3) REST in Him (Philippians 4:6-7)

Don’t worry about anything; instead, PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” [NLT]

Challenge 3: Daily Prayer – Go to God first with everything. Familiarize yourself with the Psalms.

Colossians 1:15-17 – “The Son is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn over all creation. For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created through him and for him. He is before all things, and in him all things hold together.” [NIV]    —— YOU WERE MADE BY HIM AND FOR HIM

Cheering Squad

My daughter’s run today was different than all the others. She placed better than ever before and she had her fastest time to date. It was such a great moment to watch the outcome of all of her hard work. But I noticed something else different. There were lots of loud cheers coming from the sidelines. She had an entire cheering squad.

People need encouragement. People need to hear kind and supportive words. What was Moses supposed to do with Joshua? Encourage him (Deuteronomy 1:38). What did Barnabas do to Paul by taking a chance on him? Encourage and support him (Acts 9:27). Paul wrote, “Encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV). Paul sends Tychicus to the church in Colossae to “encourage (their) hearts” (4:8 NIV). In Hebrews 3 we read of this importance – to “encourage one another daily” (v.13 NIV). In 2 Timothy 4:2, it states: “encourage your people with great teaching” (NLT).

Encouragement matters. Today I encourage you to encourage others. Make a point to encourage someone. Do you see someone doing something awesome? Tell them you have taken notice. Compliment them. Give them a word of encouragement. Do you know someone who is struggling and could use some kind words? Take the time and share them. You never know how much a little encouragement can do in a person’s life. Plant those seeds of encouragement.

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29 [NIV]

Be a Barnabas Outline

I recently shared a devotional on being one who provides encouragement to others. Here’s the outline for reference / resource. To download this, follow the link below.

Be a Barnabas

“Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.” – Hebrews 10:24-25 [NLT]

The apostles sent Barnabas to Antioch — “When he arrived and saw what the grace of God had done, he was glad and encouraged them all to remain true to the Lord with all their hearts. He was a good man, full of the Holy Spirit and faith, and a great number of people were brought to the Lord.” – Acts 11:23-24 [NIV]

Acts 4:36-37 – Barnabas sold land to provide for fellow Christians

Acts 9:26-28 – Barnabas (“Son of Encouragement”) took a chance on Paul. Others weren’t accepting him in Jerusalem because they didn’t believe he was a disciple but Barnabas spoke up for him.

Barnabas provided encouragement to John Mark. There was a disagreement between Paul and Barnabas over John Mark. Barnabas didn’t give up on John Mark and Paul later requested John Mark because he was “profitable to the ministry” (2 Timothy 4).

  • ENCOURAGE – help them develop to who they are meant to be in Christ, give support, give confidence
    • Put yourself aside and help others get ahead [Philippians 2:3-4]
    • “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29 [MSG] SPEAK LIFE
  • EQUIP – Give them tools needed, supply someone something, prepare someone, be an example.
  • EMPOWER – Create opportunities for them to serve others, give authority – don’t always say yes to something because you think no one will step up. You end up filling up what God designed someone else to fill and spreading yourself too thing.
  • EMBRACE – Love them, care for them, pray for them, accept, support, hold closely
    • Loving God includes loving people (1 John 4:20-21)
    • Paul told Timothy – 1st thing PRAY every way you know how for everyone you know – 1 Timothy 2:1-3
    • “Welcome with open arms fellow believers who don’t see things the way you do…. Treat them gently.” – Romans 14:1 [MSG]
    • Strong and able in faith – step in and lend a hand to those who falter à How can I help? “We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves.” – Romans 15:1 [ESV]

William Barclay said, “No man ever saved his soul who devoted his whole time and energy to saving it, but many a man has saved it by being so concerned for others that he forgot that he himself had a soul to save.”

 Download Be a Barnabas Outline

 

Seek the Truth

Every time I reach my hands into the kitchen drawer with the cooking utensils, it seems like I am pulling out the wrong item. I want the metal tongs but pull out a metal spoon because I focus only on grabbing something metal. I want a heavy duty plastic spoon but instead retrieve the heavy duty plastic spatula. Often we quickly reach for the item, see something that closely resembles what we want, and we make the grab not realizing until it is too late that our eyes have played tricks on us.

This happens in life all of the time, but sometimes it occurs in areas that are more detrimental than simply selecting cooking utensils while preparing a meal. We see something that isn’t the Truth, but it appears to sound like the truth so we support it. Sometimes we find ourselves out in the world of social media and there’s a photo shared with some description. Everything looks to be true. We start commenting on the injustice we see in the photo or we share the photo with others, helping to assist in the lie, not realizing that it is in fact a lie. Some photos are photo shopped or taken out of context, but we have already shared them with our co-workers, family and friends. They have shared the same photos and stories because they trust you. Later it is found that the photos were doctored, the story isn’t even true, and the Truth itself is in question. You went from trying to be a compassionate person showing the injustice or bad situation, only to finding yourself in a bad situation.  Proverbs 18:21 reminds us that there is both life and death in our words.

God calls us to be watchful of our steps and of our words. We are to be careful with the words we speak so that we do not tread on the ground of slandering others. Instead we are to be encouraging, speaking love, and being a light for the Truth. It is so easy to get caught up in sharing something as simple as a photo. It doesn’t seem so dangerous, but still there are dangers. If we expect people to believe the Truth when we present it, we want to guarantee that we are not sharing lies with others—we want to protect our moral authority.

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” – Ephesians 4:29 [ESV]

“Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.” – 1 John 4:1 [ESV]