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More Than a Story: Forgiveness

More Than a Story is a 12 week study of the parables of Jesus. This is the second week: FORGIVENESS.

[The Unforgiving Debtor: Matthew 18:21-35]

Unforgiveness is the POISON we drink hoping another will die

When you hold tight to an unforgiving spirit you slowly die to TRUTH and RIGHTEOUSNESS – PRISONER

Peter came and asked “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” (v. 21b ESV)

He thought he was being extra generous with his forgiveness because Jewish law said to forgive a person three times.

Jesus answered “Seventy-seven times.”

“And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?” (Matthew 18:33 ESV)

Mercyeleeó (el-eh-eh’-o) – pity, have mercy on, show mercy, have compassion

These people begged for mercy:

  1. 26 says “the servant fell on his knees, imploring” the king
  2. 29 says “his servant fell down and pleaded with” the forgiven servant

Each of us is forgiven because of Jesus. Jesus paid the debt.

“But if you don’t forgive people, your Father will not forgive your wrongdoing.”                – Matthew 6:15 [HCSB]

  • Remember how much you’ve been forgiven (Ephesians 4:32)
  • Don’t try to get even (Romans 12:19)
  • Respond to evil with good (Luke 6:27)
  • Pray for those who persecute you (Luke 6:28)

“Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.” – Romans 12:18 [NLT]

“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

1) In Matthew 18:21-22, we read about Peter approaching Jesus with the question – “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive Him? As many as seven times?” Jesus answers, “Seventy-seven times.” What does that mean?

 2) Read Luke 17:3-4. This passage mentions something happening before the forgiveness happens. What does it mention? Should this be required to forgive something?

3) The passage from Matthew 18 says we must continue to forgive. What is hard about forgiving someone again and again?

 4) From where are we to forgive from? How can we do this?

5) Read Ephesians 4:32. How are we to forgive?

6) Share an example from your life when you needed to forgive.

            Were you able to easily forgive?

            What made it easier/difficult?

            How did you feel after you forgave the person/people?

 

more than a story

More Than A Story is a 12-week Sermon Series and Bible Study focused on the parables of Jesus.

Richness
Forgiveness
Persistence
Fruitfulness
Obedience
Humility
Compassion
Responsiveness
Repentance
Readiness
Faithfulness
Kingdom-Focused

Social ImMEDIAte

I love social media. Over the years, FearNot Ministries has continued to have a presence on many social media sites to share the Gospel and encourage people to dig deeper into God’s Word and engage in a closer, more intimate relationship with Christ Jesus. Social media can do great good; however, like anything that can be used for good, social media can present some problems. What grieves me most is seeing how people take to Facebook, Instagram or Twitter with personal issues that involve others or could demean themselves.

God’s Word clearly tells us to speak life to others (Ephesians 4:29). Our words have the power to kill or the power to build up; our words have the power to destroy or to encourage (Proverbs 18:21). We have the option to choose what we say—and our very goal for the words we speak. The Bible says we should speak with people, expecting to bring out the best in others in conversation (Colossians 4:6). What an aim! God’s Word also tells us how to approach fellow believers we have issues with so that we can do so in a loving and graceful manner that will still hold the person accountable. The Bible says to first go to the person alone. If the person will not listen, take another person with you (Matthew 18:15-17). The Bible says when a fellow believer has a different opinion as you, you are to treat them gently (Romans 14:1). Posting something on Facebook for a large swarm of people to see is destructive. Not only does it damage those it involves, but it shows non-believers something far from Christ, and can become a stumbling block to those seeking to know more about Jesus.

As you interact online, remember to share the love of Christ. Remember that anything you post could be seen by more than just you. Remember that your words have the power to destroy. Speak life. Speak using good discernment (knowing what is right and what is wrong). Speak with love. May your words be few and your love and grace runneth over.

Forgiveness Outline

I recently shared a devotional on Forgiveness. Here’s the outline for reference / resource. To download this, follow the link below.

Forgiveness

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. – Colossians 3:13 [NLT]

Parable of the Unmerciful Servant – Matthew 18:21-35

PRAY FOR THEM:

But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. – Matthew 5:44 [NIV]

THINK LOVING THOUGHTS:

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus; Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross! – Philippians 2:3-8 [NIV]

ACT IN LOVE:

“But to you who are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you.” – Luke 6:27-28 [NLT]

EXPECT THE BEST:

“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” – 1 Corinthians 13:7 [NLT]

Download Forgiveness Outline

Children’s Ministry Lesson: The Unmerciful Servant

The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant can teach us all a great lesson about forgiveness. This lesson is geared toward elementary school children. The goal is to teach the children more about the topics of mercy and forgiveness and to encourage children to forgive and show mercy to others. The front page of this lesson provides a definition of mercy, a key verse, and breaks down God’s forgiveness. The second page is a fill-in sheet to be used with a discussion after reading Matthew 18:21-35 with the group. The activity/craft period of this lesson will be used to brainstorm how we can be better at forgiving. We will then make an art project or card for someone who we want to bless, someone who we may need to forgive for something or someone who we have forgiven in the past.

unmercservant

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