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Prayers of a Parent

As a parent, life changes completely. Our focus, our time, everything is different. We want the very best for our children. The most important part of our lives should be the most important part of their lives – Jesus. As both a Christian and a parent, the ultimate question that we hope is answered with a “yes” is a simple one—Did they accept Jesus? It is the most important decision. It is the difference between life and death!

My children both are believers; however, the fruit for one is more bountiful than the other. I find myself often on my knees praying that my child will let Jesus in deeper, that my child will give up the control, the emotions, the wandering focus, and allow the Spirit to move freely. The past few weeks, I’ve noticed things have been changing. The once more hardened heart is starting to soften up. It certainly has been interesting.

I am excited to see the awesome work God will do through my children for His Kingdom. Thank you Lord for holding my children in Your hands. I know You have promised that not one could be snatched from Your hands. Friends, keep praying for your children. Pray like Hannah (see 1 Samuel 1). Keep lifting them up to Him. Understand that your prayers for your children are of the most important part of parenting.

“For this boy I prayed, and the LORD has given me my petition which I asked of Him.” – 1 Samuel 1:27 [NASB]

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Refusal to Love

Something that bothers me a lot is seeing the way children are with their parents. So many children today have little or no respect for their parents and as I watch their interaction it is easy to see why. I am not saying I’m the greatest parent or offering any parenting advice, but it is very clear: “A refusal to correct is a refusal to love; love your children by disciplining them.”

When your child is being unruly, is it wise to buy them something (which is a reward) for that behavior? Are we supposed to say, yes you were very disrespectful to me and to others but I will reward you so you continue this behavior in the future? It pains me to see this happen again and again. Perhaps these parents think they are taking the road that is easiest (which is true) and that they are being a good friend (though parents are not to be friends first or they would be called “friends” rather than “mother” or “father”). Sadly, these people are destroying their children (Proverbs 19:18). Yes, destroying them.

There are many young adults who are disrespectful because their parents allowed it. They have no compassion for their parents never taught it. They have no humility because their parents never showed it. They have no true concept of love because the parents only gave things. If you are a parent, it is your job to discipline. I want my kids to do great things in the world, so I discipline them so that they will be able to grow and learn and do great things in the world. I am so grateful that our Father disciplines us and I am thankful that my parents disciplined me and my sister. If you truly love your kids, watch what you teach them.

 

“A refusal to correct is a refusal to love;
love your children by disciplining them.”

-Proverbs 13:24 [MSG]

 

“Discipline your children while you still have the chance;
indulging them destroys them.”

-Proverbs 19:18 [MSG]

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Spoiled Rotten

The other day I was asked to keep the fruit snacks out of the bag as I processed an order. I was sure to comply with the request but it was not good enough. The fruit snacks I kept back were for the one child; however, the other child also had a box of fruit snacks. Something very trivial to me became a very loud scene.

The children had to have their own boxes of fruit snacks. A big tantrum proceeded—where there was no respect, no discipline, nothing but blame passed to me for not keeping both boxes of fruit snacks out. Each box of fruit snacks contains ten pouches. One would assume children would share. I never heard of children both needing to have their own. But what was worse, was that the mother blamed me for an error when the error wasn’t bagged fruit snacks. The children caused such a scene with people shaking their heads at the selfishness, the disrespect, etc.

I don’t want to criticize bad parenting. I mess up often. But today I want to remind you all of something very important. We have an amazing Father—a PERFECT FATHER. He doesn’t give us everything. Some things we aren’t meant to have because it would spoil us. So why do we insist on giving our children everything? There is a reason for discipline. There is a reason for tough love. There is a reason for restrictions and guidelines. When something is spoiled, we say it’s “rotten.” Let us not raise up rotten children. Let us raise up God fearing, respectful, loving children.

“Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.” – Proverbs 13:24 [NIV]

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The Great Race

I had just dropped my two children off to the bus stop and was walking the dog for our daily adventure. I was enjoying the warm sun and the fresh air. I looked ahead to see another group of children gathered together at a second bus stop. They entered the bus and as the bus pulled away and the group of remaining parents walked away, I noticed a man and a young boy.

The young boy was probably four years old, and he looked at his father with glowing eyes. I was too far away to hear what he said to his dad, but I knew by their actions, that the son had just challenged his dad to a race. And they were off. I could hear the laughter as they both ran down the path. The father was sure to not run at full speed so that he could keep a watchful eye on his son, and keep his son enjoying the race. They ran together till they reached their home. It was such a small moment that I witnessed during my morning trip, but it was such a special time– and probably not only for myself.

God tells us to be mindful of how we interact with other people. When it comes to parenting, we are not supposed to raise our children to be filled with anger and bitterness. We are to raise our children in the Lord. We are to be ready to offer grace and love. We are freely to give and sacrifice. God has gave us such great examples of how we can be a good parent, and a good friend, child, sibling, teacher, etc. We simply need to love like Him, to show grace like Him, to sacrifice like Him. We simply must seek Him.

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
– Ephesians 6:4 [NASB]