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Associations

It is always important to be mindful of who you are surrounded by because it matters. As a child, we heard it from our parents and we didn’t want to listen. But then we got older and we started to see it play out. We realized that when we hung around certain people, we got in trouble because they liked to find trouble and you were right there along for the ride.

The Bible says that we should “walk with the wise and become wise.” If you spend time with people who are wise, you will glean so much. Just the same, if you “associate with fools” you will “get in trouble.” The foolish will pull you away. The foolish will plant seeds of doubt. The foolish will not encourage you to live in a godly manner.

We are not supposed to separate ourselves from the world; however, we need to be intentional with our relationships. You will become like the people who surround you. Today, look who you spend your time with each day. Are you walking with the wise or associating with fools?

“Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.” – Proverbs 13:20 [NLT]

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Refusal to Love

Something that bothers me a lot is seeing the way children are with their parents. So many children today have little or no respect for their parents and as I watch their interaction it is easy to see why. I am not saying I’m the greatest parent or offering any parenting advice, but it is very clear: “A refusal to correct is a refusal to love; love your children by disciplining them.”

When your child is being unruly, is it wise to buy them something (which is a reward) for that behavior? Are we supposed to say, yes you were very disrespectful to me and to others but I will reward you so you continue this behavior in the future? It pains me to see this happen again and again. Perhaps these parents think they are taking the road that is easiest (which is true) and that they are being a good friend (though parents are not to be friends first or they would be called “friends” rather than “mother” or “father”). Sadly, these people are destroying their children (Proverbs 19:18). Yes, destroying them.

There are many young adults who are disrespectful because their parents allowed it. They have no compassion for their parents never taught it. They have no humility because their parents never showed it. They have no true concept of love because the parents only gave things. If you are a parent, it is your job to discipline. I want my kids to do great things in the world, so I discipline them so that they will be able to grow and learn and do great things in the world. I am so grateful that our Father disciplines us and I am thankful that my parents disciplined me and my sister. If you truly love your kids, watch what you teach them.

 

“A refusal to correct is a refusal to love;
love your children by disciplining them.”

-Proverbs 13:24 [MSG]

 

“Discipline your children while you still have the chance;
indulging them destroys them.”

-Proverbs 19:18 [MSG]

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Wise Walking

People often tell me that it does not matter who they spend time with because they will be who they will be whether or not they are hanging around with people doing bad things. They have control. They are their own person. I have heard it again and again. And yes, some people have more self-control than others and some people do not follow the crowd as much as others; however, the people you spend time with ALWAYS matters.

If you spend time with someone who talks a lot about politics, you will likely hear and learn a lot about politics. You might even become more political. If you spend time with a group of people who are all Christians, you should be able to see a difference between them and the rest of the world. You may partake in more theological discussions, do more studying of God’s Word and pray more. When you interact a lot with those who listen to a particular type of music or talk a certain way or do certain things, you will be soaking in those things. Your dialect could change a bit while you are with them. You might be listening to different music than usual and start humming songs you never thought would come out of your mouth.

Some of the truths of life that I learned came from hanging out with wise people. Spending time with pastors, with ministry laypeople, with strong Christians, has taught me a great deal and has challenged me, helped me to grow, encouraged me, and guided me to who I am today. I remember a time when I was hanging out with those who many would deem “fools” and I can attest that part of my life was falling to pieces. So remember this Proverb. Remember this choice. Remember the importance of who you walk with in life. Wise walking will help you to grow and get where God wants you to be in life. Foolish walking is walking backwards. God has so much more for you. Believe me. Or better yet, believe Him.

“Become wise by walking with the wise;
hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.”

-Proverbs 13:20 [MSG]

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Plain and Simple

I very much enjoy having a plain and simple life. There was a time when I wanted to show off what I had because that is how the world works. You buy things. You tell people what you bought. You shove it right in their face because then you look good. But really, are you good? Is this thing bringing value to your life? Not one bit. I am so grateful that I learned the true value of life. I am so thankful God has shown me how to have a full life.

In today’s verse we read that a “showy life is an empty life.” To have a lot of things to boast about really won’t get you very far and one day it will all disappear. You can fight long and hard to keep these things that never are YOUR things in the first place, but what a waste of life, what “an empty life” it will be for you. Today people enter my home and they comment about how little I have in my home. They comment about how small the place is and how plain it looks. I tell them it suits me. You see, I don’t want to get too comfortable here. This is not my home. As I downsized my things and focused more on God, my life became simpler and I can say it is a much fuller life. I can spend time with my kids more. I can read God’s Word more. I can do things rather than work overtime. I can live rather than walk like a zombie through life. I can be active in the world, minster to many, rather than pretend to have it all together because I have a lot of stuff.

Don’t get me wrong—it is okay to own things; just don’t let those things own you. I pray that if your life is currently empty, that you will allow the Holy Spirit to show you how to fill it up. It’s possible—only through Him.

“A pretentious, showy life is an empty life;
a plain and simple life is a full life.”

-Proverbs 13:7 [MSG]

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Wise Walker

Your environment matters. The people you hang out with matter. I’ve heard stories of undercover cops getting sucked into criminal activity because they were undercover for so long. There are also the examples of a child moving to another school and falling in with a different crowd. They start acting differently. The words they use are different. I find myself seeing this in action with myself. If I hang out with a particular group of people I begin to use slang. I return home with slang words coming out of my mouth. Or I will spend some time with those who use exquisite grammar and I end up sounding very intelligent when I arrive home.

Today’s proverb says “walk with the wise and become wise.” We are all sponges and we soak up what is around us. If we are spending a lot of time with people who are considered wise, we gain a lot of information from these people simply by being with them. At the same time, if we spend time with fools, we start learning their ways. This is the same way with positive and negative people. If you surround yourself with positive people, you’ll be more likely to be positive. If you are always around negativity, you will be just as pessimistic.

Do not think your company doesn’t matter. We are to go into the world and share the Gospel, but we must also make sure that we are surrounding ourselves with people who will edify. Make sure you have a community around you that can help you to be who Jesus has created you to be so you can benefit the kingdom.

“Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.” – Proverbs 13:20 [NLT]

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Spouting Off

Whenever there is a trial, the courtroom hears both sides of the case before the judge or jury makes the decision. The facts are presented and looked at closely. Even so, there are many people who listen to some pieces of the case and immediately say their piece. They spout off before even hearing everything. Then as the case is presented and the truth is revealed, they look foolish.

This happens a lot today because so much information is available via media outlets. We get news through tweets. We read the headline of the Facebook link without reading the article and immediately form an opinion. Go to a newspaper or media outlet on Facebook. Look at one of the statuses posted about a criminal act or disputable law. Read the comments. Most people never read the article. Most people do not know the facts. They read the one or two lines they can see and start “spouting off.” They look very “foolish” and some people even point it out.

If you are always “spouting off” no one wants to hear what you have to say because they know you do not check into things. How can they trust anything you say? Your words become just meaningless words. There’s then no way for you to point them to Christ. They won’t listen to you because you are always spouting off about things. You never listen to facts. What you say becomes irrelevant. Listen to facts. Look for truth. Don’t just spout off. There’s too much of that going on today. We all need to hear some truth!

“Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.” – Proverbs 18:13 [NLT]

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