As we run with Jesus, we continue to build godly relationships.
Godly living starts at home. If you aren’t living godly at home, you won’t succeed in godly living outside of the home.
Paul speaks about the importance of godly relationships in numerous letters.
- Husbands & wives
- Parents & children
- Masters & slaves
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
– Ephesians 5:21 [NIV]
- 18 – Wife put your husband first
- 19 – Husband love wife
- 20 – Children obey parents
- 21 – Parents don’t be hard on children
Husband and Wife (Colossians 3:18-19, Ephesians 5:22-33)
Loving leadership equals mutual respect – Ephesians 5:21
Husband sacrifices (Christ like sacrificial leadership by husband will keep the ultimate good of his wife in view at all times)
Wife submits (honors & affirms his leadership, helps him exercise role in family)
He loves her. He wants the best for her. She knows this and she submits.
- Wife does not practice absolute surrender – that is only to Jesus.
- Wife is not naturally or spiritually inferior
Parents and Children (Colossians 3:20-21, Ephesians 6:1-4)
- Children obey parents in everything as it pleases the Lord
- Parents don’t provoke less they become discouraged and give up
- Parents parent with firm loving guidance – not dictatorship
- Parents encourage – children obey
Bible Study Questions:
1) Read Ephesians 5:31-33.
What does verse 31 say husbands should hold fast to?
Verse 33 says that the man shall ________ the wife and the wife shall __________ the husband. What does this passage mean?
Which command is harder or are they both equal?
2) The Bible says that the man is to love his wife and the woman is to honor her husband. How does love and honor go hand in hand?
3) Regarding parent child relationships, both have responsibilities. Parents are called to ____________ their children. Children are to _______ their parents.
4) How does encouragement and obedience go hand-in-hand?
This is one part of a 12-week Sermon Series and Bible Study focused on Colossians. The 12 weeks include:
As I was taking my evening walk, I noticed a collection of license plates including some vanity plates showcased on an old barn. One of the plates said, “God is my co-pilot.” I do not like that phrase. I believe if you consider God a co-pilot, then you have misinterpreted things.
A co-pilot is a second pilot of a plane, a relief pilot to take over if the pilot needs assistance. If the pilot is around, he or she is in charge. If that is how you see God, then to you He is simply there for when you mess up or need help. If you see God as your co-pilot, He helps you steer through life when you give Him the controls.
God should be in the pilot position, in charge of the plane – your life. See we are not even co-pilots—we are the plane. God directs us where to go and we should go. The problem is we want to be the pilot, who lets God do some things when we aren’t so interested, or we want to be the co-pilot, jumping in when we think God’s plan won’t be what we really want. Only when you fully submit to God and allow Him to direct your path, will you find true happiness and peace in life. Today, look at your life. Decide. Are you trying to be the: Pilot? Co-pilot? Or are you the plane, allowing God to bring you to new heights?
“Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.” – Psalm 37:5-6
We don’t understand the word prosperity as we should. We always like to define words with our own human perspective, so we see prosperity as something that helps us to prosper in a way we think it would be best to prosper. In Job 22:21-22, Eliphaz told Job to “submit to God…” and by doing this, “prosperity will come to you.” But when we read this, we consider the prosperity as something we would like to have or as something we see Job later get when God answers in the last chapter. That is not what prosperity is all about and until we understand the true meaning of prosperity, we won’t grasp the true peace of God.
We can be prosperous—we can be rich toward God—and yet not have a large bank account or own a house. We can be prosperous without having everything come very easy in our lives. It is an error to believe that because we believe in God and because we call ourselves Christians, that it means we will receive wealth and good health here on earth. At times that type of prosperity comes late in life or we will see it with the resurrection.
Eliphaz was right about many things. We should submit to God. We should accept His commands. We should have His words on our heart. But we need to consider true prosperity. Prosperity is very different from what the world considers. We also need to understand that some of the promises of God will come much later than we would think. All of His promises will come to be, but everything will occur in His timing.
“Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you. Accept instruction from his mouth and lay up his words in your heart.” – Job 22:21-22
I do not like the taste of grapefruit; however, I read many articles claiming that it would be beneficial for my health so I decided to start drinking grapefruit juice daily. The problem is that I cannot stand the taste. The first time I had some of the juice, I could not even force it down; it made me sick just tasting a sip of the juice. But I knew that it would be beneficial to me so I continued to drink it daily and still have a glass every morning.
Something that leaves a bitter taste in most mouths is discipline. People don’t generally like to be disciplined. Who wants to get a write-up at work for being late? What child wants to be grounded? Yet discipline can help us to grow as well as to correct our behavior. Discipline is for a reason. Discipline is for our best. Yet we have become a society against discipline. People are able to buy themselves out of a punishment. Children are un-grounded thirty minutes later because a parent “feels bad,” doesn’t want the child to get a complex or doesn’t feel like taking the time to enforce the punishment.
It is no different when it comes to the Lord’s discipline. We do not like discipline. We complain about our circumstances. There are situations we go through that are to help us to be holy as God has called us to be as His children, and we don’t recognize the discipline or don’t wish to accept the discipline. Proverbs 3:11-12 states: “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in” (NIV). God loves you so much that He doesn’t want you to be living in sin. He set you apart for a reason. You can choose to ignore or you can choose to submit. Submission will lead you toward the goodness, to holiness, to life.
Read Psalm 39 and see how David reacts to discipline.
“Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”
– Hebrews 12: 7-11 [NIV]
Last night I was giving my son some medicine and it was really interesting. I handed him the cup. He looked at it for a bit. Then he asked me what was in the cup. I informed him that it as medicine for his cough and stuffy nose. Then he took the medicine.
It reminded me of when Jesus was in the Garden praying. In Luke 22:42, Jesus said, “Father, if You are willing, remove this cup from Me. Yet not My will, but Your will be done.” It just reminded me of when we are handed cups in life. Perhaps God does not hand us the same cup that Jesus was dealt, but we are still handed cups.
God has a purpose for our lives and when we decide to ignore that, and we think we know something better…. When we read His Word and we decide we are going to disregard it… It’s sort of like we are refusing the cup over and over again.
Pretty much, you’re handed the cup and you look at it….
“What’s this going to do to me? I don’t know if I like it. Do I really want to do that? I don’t know.”
Then you find something else, and say that it is better than His plan. Even when your plan is falling apart, you still think that your plan has a chance.
God says, “Here’s the cup.” You think your friends or family know better.
God says, “Here’s the cup.” You don’t think it looks good. There has to be something better out there for you.
Sometimes, God says, “Here’s the cup.” You then partake but you want more. You are not satisfied.
When we are in obedience with God, it’s not a one time thing where we accept Jesus and then we are finished. Every day we need to be submitting. Our lives are like a puzzle in a box, with all of those many pieces. We are not submitting every piece of our life to God. Sometimes we hand Him our leftovers. We like to hold back pieces. Every day is a new day where we must submit each and every piece.
What we need to do is to be in full obedience and accept God’s will for our lives. It’s hard and it’s something that we must do daily, but there’s no better way!
“Father, if you are willing, please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.” – Luke 22:42 [NLT]