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Refusal to Love

Something that bothers me a lot is seeing the way children are with their parents. So many children today have little or no respect for their parents and as I watch their interaction it is easy to see why. I am not saying I’m the greatest parent or offering any parenting advice, but it is very clear: “A refusal to correct is a refusal to love; love your children by disciplining them.”

When your child is being unruly, is it wise to buy them something (which is a reward) for that behavior? Are we supposed to say, yes you were very disrespectful to me and to others but I will reward you so you continue this behavior in the future? It pains me to see this happen again and again. Perhaps these parents think they are taking the road that is easiest (which is true) and that they are being a good friend (though parents are not to be friends first or they would be called “friends” rather than “mother” or “father”). Sadly, these people are destroying their children (Proverbs 19:18). Yes, destroying them.

There are many young adults who are disrespectful because their parents allowed it. They have no compassion for their parents never taught it. They have no humility because their parents never showed it. They have no true concept of love because the parents only gave things. If you are a parent, it is your job to discipline. I want my kids to do great things in the world, so I discipline them so that they will be able to grow and learn and do great things in the world. I am so grateful that our Father disciplines us and I am thankful that my parents disciplined me and my sister. If you truly love your kids, watch what you teach them.

 

“A refusal to correct is a refusal to love;
love your children by disciplining them.”

-Proverbs 13:24 [MSG]

 

“Discipline your children while you still have the chance;
indulging them destroys them.”

-Proverbs 19:18 [MSG]

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Spoiled Rotten

The other day I was asked to keep the fruit snacks out of the bag as I processed an order. I was sure to comply with the request but it was not good enough. The fruit snacks I kept back were for the one child; however, the other child also had a box of fruit snacks. Something very trivial to me became a very loud scene.

The children had to have their own boxes of fruit snacks. A big tantrum proceeded—where there was no respect, no discipline, nothing but blame passed to me for not keeping both boxes of fruit snacks out. Each box of fruit snacks contains ten pouches. One would assume children would share. I never heard of children both needing to have their own. But what was worse, was that the mother blamed me for an error when the error wasn’t bagged fruit snacks. The children caused such a scene with people shaking their heads at the selfishness, the disrespect, etc.

I don’t want to criticize bad parenting. I mess up often. But today I want to remind you all of something very important. We have an amazing Father—a PERFECT FATHER. He doesn’t give us everything. Some things we aren’t meant to have because it would spoil us. So why do we insist on giving our children everything? There is a reason for discipline. There is a reason for tough love. There is a reason for restrictions and guidelines. When something is spoiled, we say it’s “rotten.” Let us not raise up rotten children. Let us raise up God fearing, respectful, loving children.

“Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.” – Proverbs 13:24 [NIV]

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